Category Archives: Teenage life

Quote of the week

‘Get busy living or get busy dying’ – Shawshank Redemption.

This quote illustrates the importance to achieve something in life, in having dreams and striving to achieve them. Otherwise what is the point?

So whatever you’re good at or have an interest in, make sure you work at it until you are the best: hard work and challengling yourself will help you achieve utter sucess

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The Social Hierarchy of my Youth

My school social criteria- Mean girls

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this picture isn’t exactly true but it did make me laugh!

Lets bisect my schools social ladder. Now I know this my sound a little bit harsh and judgemental and I don’t usually analyse peoples characters like this however, I really want you to see want my year is like and compare it to you own; I really want to know if it is just my year that consists of all the cocky people or if everyone’s school are sort of similar.

We have the popular Boys. The generally quite decent boys that are good looking and charming enough to have the prettiest of girls and still go for more then just looks. They are nice and don’t mind having to be partners with you when the teachers put you together. These are the also clever boys that gain all the top marks during mock week.

There are the normal girls, the sweet, moderately clever girls that don’t fancy everything that has a heartbeat. This is the group I would to consider me and my friends in.

The geeky girls who cant quite keep a conversation going as they are all so quiet and confined within their own little social group. Surprisingly these girls have more confidence behind a phone then in school, they pose for their ‘selfies’ like models however unfortunately don’t quite pull the look of; they are the girls that are still 5 years behind on society. Weirdly theses girls aren’t actually as clever as they look, most of them fail in their maths and English exams. I don’t actually know what they are doing?

I often hear about these girls talking about ‘never making the first move always waiting for the boy’ and someone I don’t know who, made a very harsh yet a little bit amusing joke. The nerdy girls said that you must ‘ wait for the boy to make the first move’ and someone else replied that ‘they would be waiting for a very long time’.

Sometimes when a girl on their table try a different hairstyle and someone says it looks nice, which it did, they suddenly think they are a Victoria secrets model and storm past you like you’re a peasant back in the middle ages gazing at you with that dirty looks. I’m just like WOW calm down; you hair looks nice you haven’t suddenly become a Cara Delavigne.

The creepy boys. The boys that really have nothing going for them, they are not clever, good looking, polite or nice to talk to, they are just there. These boy are the type that will announce to the whole class that they have just broke wind or spend forty five minutes picking at a spot. They think they are too good for the normal and nerdy girls, and think that the only person good enough for them is someone who looks like a Hollister model. When really they resemble the two hairy bikers, you must know what I mean.

Finally the worst off all: the Bimbos. The Here’s some background. I live on a nice street where nice people live, however unfortunately next to where I live there are a couple of unsightly council estates that contain some very rough characters. A couple of these characters attend my school and are in my year. Some of these people from the less fortunate areas are generally very nice and come from good homes, yet some are incredibly rude and cocky and quite frankly believe they are gods gift.

For example my year, of 72 pupils, is equally divided into two groups: the A half and the B half. The A half are for the more academic side of the year and the B half for the less academic. All the popular boys are all in my side of the year, the A half and all the bimbos are in the B. Now my problem with my school is for some unknown reason the bimbos, who are girls who aren’t clever nor pretty somehow believe they are automatically better then me. I was on my way to French and a girl with makeup like an umper-lumper with caterpillars on her eyebrows walked into my friend, who was turned around talking to another boy down the corridor. My friend all apologetic and embarrassed about not paying attention laughed and began picking up her book, which she dropped during the collision. Then the umper-lumper huffed ‘god’ as if she had just touched something sticky on the bottom of her shoe. My friend, which I should mention, only joined my school at the start of year nine and comes from a privileged background. She had been in private education for all her life apart from now when she signed up to joining my school. Whereas in comparison this girl comes from this rough, council estate and can barely count up to two. She’s that type of character in the classroom that will do anything to avoid class work and scowl at those who are. Acting like it’s a clever thing not to do your work and bad if you do. Why waste your time showing up for school if you cant is bothered to work? How’s that life choice going, failing all your GCSE and I’m sorry if I would like to gain a respectable education at the end of it. I mean don’t get me wrong, I am not an academic snob but I just cant bear it when people think their automatically better then someone else and are constantly looking down their nose at people. When they drop out of school with no education hopefully they will learn a bit of respect.Unfortunately, I have quite a lot of these cocky, ignorant people in my year and that’s just one table that makes up my year.

Watch the mean girls Social ladder!

The stress of freakin’ out!

Anxiety, it is scary but it shouldn’t stop your life. Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.

Do you ever have those moments where the room begins to close in on you and you feel like everyone eyes are piercing through you; you feel like you stripped naked of any protection and left for others to tear away at you? Have you ever just freaked out? The panic smoothers you and steals all the air from your lungs. Your mind is racing and you lose control of your body. And you begin to panic.

Well don’t worry it’s normal. I honestly didn’t realise how common panic attacks were until one of my closest friends began experiencing them, and trust me they truly are scary, not only for me watching them but for the person battling them. One second my friend will be perfectly normal and the next she’ll be uncontrollably crying, makeup smeared all along her face and her hands trembling like she is attempting to shake it all off.

Then i began reading books i recieved for Christmas including ‘Where she went’ by Gayle Forman, and noticed that the boy also had panic attacks which is a lot like what happened to the main character the ‘Perks of being a Wallflower’, which I recommend you watch the movie. It gave me an insight on what it’s like when personally experiencing these panic attacks, the dizziness and the nausea. I understood that it isn’t something that you can just stop and tell to go away. It takes strength and determination to finally be the boss of your panic.

And again while in form (which is basically a class at 12 o’clock where all students from all years are put together to socialise) i was talking to a girl who said she also had to battle against panic attacks regularly, information that i never knew before. That’s when i realised they are more common than i thought. Originally when my friend first began having the attacks i thought she was just trying to gain attention, which probably sounds quite harsh, but then i began thinking; why would she want to be seen vigorously crying in the centre of the corridor, stared at and have to be escorted away by the school nurse, its just not the kind of attention you would want.

I asked how these panic attacks had began and she said it was due to the death of her nan just before Christmas which triggered it, which is understandable. But she is still having these attacks several weeks afterwards, which she claims is due to pre exam stress, which i can totally relate too. As the panic attacks began to come in the middle of mock exams and lessons she doesn’t like, all my friends began to think she was putting it on. Pretending. Unfortunately now she has lost some of her friends, which is not fair considering her condition is completely uncontrollable.

Being an incredibly laid back person, i didn’t really understand why you would worry about so many things that could never affect you, but if you are a person who worries a lot it is something that you have no control over; your mind just races and the next thing you know your bright red feeling like the room is closing in on you. Therefore, i thought considering i have successfully been able to glide through life, i decided to share my advice with her, which i am now going to share with you.

  • It is completely natural to get stressed, its better to be stressed then too laid back, so breath, concentrate on one thought and renew your state of mind. Think about something completely off topic, like how you do when you just watched a horror movie and are in bed in a dark room and think you are about to have the same fate as the main character in the movie. Try to think of every thought other than that horror movie to get to sleep. It’s the same. try to think of everything other then when you stress about.
  • A breath of fresh air always helps
  • Prepare not to panic- thats easier said than done, but if you know you’re about to panic remove yourself from the situation.
  • If you have fallen out with friends over the panic attack, try your best to never have a panic attack in front of them again. Stick it to them and show that you don’t need to rely on them for support, your fine on your own. Look at the bright side, during this period of your life you will be able to clearly recognize who your real friends are and who are just pretending. So i guess every cloud has a silver lining.

I have a video that makes me laugh every time, so if you feel the stress and anxiety building up inside of you, think of this video and remember my advice! When you have a panic attack you want your own space and people to get out your face, just like this guy! Hope you enjoy 🙂 and I hope one day you will be able to finally overcome the panic and get the better of you anxiety! Best of luck♥